Your partner may not give consent. If they have not given consent they might:
• Say ‘no’
• say ‘I want to stop’
• say ‘I am not sure’
• Not say anything when you ask them for consent
• Push you away
• Turn or look away from you
• Hold their arms tightly around their body
• Stay very still
It is good to get both verbal and non-verbal consent
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Reading your partner's body language will help you know if they are comfortable or not. If your partner is not comfortable or unsure, you should stop. They may not be ready, or they may have changed their mind. In Samoa, the age of consent to sexual activity is 16 years old. This means it is against the law for a person to have sex with a person under the age of 16.
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Consent is when one person gives permission for another person to do something. You need consent to:
• Kiss
• Hug
• Touch your partner on the genitals, breasts or anus
• Have oral sex
• Have vaginal sex
• Have anal sex
Both people always need to give consent to any sexual activity. You can ask for consent by saying:
• Are you feeling alright?
• Do you want to do this?
• Do you want to stop?
There are two types of consent:
• Verbal consent
• Non-verbal consent (sometimes called body language)
Your partner can give consent by:
• Saying ‘yes
• saying That feels good
• Pulling you closer
• Nodding to say ‘yes’
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